Book Review: You are the Mother of All Mothers

In my deepest moments of grief, I find solace in reading stories and poetry about pregnancy loss. There is true beauty when emotion is conveyed through the written word.

I recently purchased a copy of Angela Miller’s book: You Are the Mother of All Mothers: a message of hope for the grieving heart.

When I came across Angela’s site and recognized some of her quotes from Pinterest, I just knew I HAD to have this book. Angela is authentic. Her words reach out and grasp those tiny broken pieces of your heart, gently melding them back together.

The book consists of a few heartfelt lines on every other page contrasted by abstract art. If you pick up a copy, I challenge you to see what you can uncover in the brush strokes. I was surprised by what images and messages came through to me as I divulged in the beauty of each page.

It’s an easy read, but the experience is anything but easy. Angela keeps it real. Undoubtedly, I can’t deny that it felt like my subconscious was speaking to my ego telling me to put aside the guilt, the resentment, and the feelings of unworthiness.

Angela reminds you that it’s normal to feel that way. It’s normal to blame yourself or God. It’s normal to beat yourself up. But honestly, being hard on yourself is the last thing you should be doing.

There is no grief like that of a bereaved mother.

And because of that…

You ARE the mother of all mothers. 

Angela’s words are the truth. As you read them, it feels like a slap across the face followed by the gentlest, most loving hug you will ever receive.

Her words speak to every single mother who has ever lost a child.

We are all warrior mommas through and through.

I highly recommend you get yourself a copy. If I had my way, no woman facing an impending pregnancy loss would ever leave the doctor’s office, the hospital, or her bathroom without reading this book.

It’s medicine for the broken soul.

Angela Miller quote

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Book Review – Ever Upward: Overcoming the Lifelong Losses of Infertility to Own a Childfree Life

The infertility community is undoubtedly a web of inter-connectedness. Often, I don’t even realize how I discover new resources, practitioners, authors or blogs. I stumble upon them and a connection is born.

This is exactly how I met Justine Brooks Froelker and began reading her blog Ever Upward.

Justine shares her stories about struggle, hope, fight and recovery through infertility and into child-free living – a choice and a voice that is unique within the infertility community.

When Justine asked me if I would be willing to read a chapter from her upcoming book, Ever Upward: Overcoming the Lifelong Losses of Infertility to Own a Childfree Life, I immediately said yes and chose Chapter 6 – Reigniting the Spark.

It’s no doubt that passion dwindles for couples facing infertility. My husband and I have definitely felt the strain, so I figured this topic would be a good fit.

In this chapter, Justine explains how she was able to reconnect with her husband Chad after enduring the hardships of IVF and the grief of letting go of the need to have biological children.

As I read each page, I smiled at the similarities between our stories, laughed at Justine’s humour and took moments to digest the personal insight that Justine so easily conveys through her words.

Over the course of 12 months, Justine and her husband planned monthly date nights ranging from low cost stay-at-home evenings to extravagant nights out on the town. It didn’t matter what they did; what mattered is what they discovered while rekindling their love.

  1. They are a family (even if they are childless).
  2. Their relationship is a priority.
  3. They are a team.

These three lessons are valuable for any couple, not just those going through fertility treatments. These factors build the foundation of a relationship and are crucial to its success.

Justine and Chad have found balance in their relationship and peace in their choice to continue on as a childless couple. It takes strength to know your limit.

Justine’s story is vulnerable and raw, yet completely relatable. I guarantee you will laugh, maybe even cry, but most of all, you will heal.

Whether you are just beginning your fertility journey or nearing the end of it, I highly recommend you get yourself a copy and support a fellow infertility blogger/author.

You can order your own pre-sale copy of the Ever Upward via Justine’s website. The book will be available on Amazon and in book stores Spring 2015.

Grab a copy, flip to Chapter 6 and uncover inspiration for your next date night! I hope to “borrow” some of Justine’s ideas to reconnect with my own husband. If we aren’t in this together, we aren’t in this at all.

Ever Upward by Justine Froelker