37 week bumpdate

How Far Along: 37 weeks and 6 days

Meds: All taken daily – prenatal vitamin, Omega 3 + DHA, Ranitidine (2x/day), Magnesium (1000mg at bedtime), Gaviscon for heartburn as required (which is OFTEN!).

Baby is the size of: a WATERMELON!

Best Moments This Week:

  • My baby shower
  • Going to the spa for a manicure/pedicure
  • My husband reading stories to the baby before bedtime
  • Being OFF WORK!

Total Weight Gain: a total of 16.6 lbs – +.04 from last week.

Maternity Clothes: All day, every day!

Symptoms:

  • Since being off work (and not sitting at my desk for 8+ hours a day), my SI joint pain has subsided quite a bit. I’ve still got the front pelvic pain, but being more active has helped loosen my tight ligaments. I aim for 2 walks a day minimum. Nothing hurts more than moving my legs apart or getting in and out of bed though. Night time is always the worst for my pain.
  • Tired. Oh, so tired.
  • Heartburn is more food induced, rather than due to the lack of room.
  • Baby is continuously lower = random cervical pain/pressure
  • No more constipation though! I am not sure if I can attribute it to my increased intake of magnesium or if my body is actually clearing itself out. I did have diarrhea yesterday morning.

Sleep: One night this week, I slept straight for a 2.5 hour increment. Usually, I’m up every 1-1.5 hours to pee and readjust myself because I’m so uncomfortable.

Food Cravings: Blueberries, granny smith apples, Thai food – green curry chicken

Anything making you queasy or sick: Haven’t puked in a few days now. WHOHOO!

Movement: He’s active on and off throughout the day. Yesterday was a quieter day which makes me think he’s growing – AGAIN!

Stretch Marks: Yes, I’ve got tiger stripes.

Baby Bump: Growing and growing… I can finally say I feel like I truly look pregnant.

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Gender: BOY

Labour Signs: Some braxton hicks, but nothing else besides baby getting lower. I even tried eating spicy food last weekend and having sex.

Belly Button In or Out?: Innie, but not much left.

Wedding Rings on or off?: Off.

Happy or Moody?: I’m generally in a good mood these days. I get cranky when I get tired at night. I always fight naps and going to bed early (I know, I know. I need to get over this ASAP).

Purchases for baby:

Purchases for Momma: 

Miss Anything?: Sleep, energy, moving faster than a turtle

Looking forward to:

  • Our local Perinatal Loss Awareness Walk on October 3rd (as long as baby stays in til then)
  • The actual arrival of our little man

A rant about making babies on vacation

Twice in the past two weeks, I’ve had people say to me, “We hope to make Baby #2 on our upcoming vacation“.

WTF.

Why do fertiles always think that it’s THAT easy?

Both of these couples did get pregnant with Baby #1 their first month trying, but still…

I highly doubt either one understands the ovulation process.

There’s no guarantee their vacations will fall during prime fertile time.

And why would you feel the need to proclaim your initiation into the second round of baby making??? ESPECIALLY to (in)fertile me!!!!

I always hope for the best when anyone is trying to conceive, but it’s statements like this that add to the stigma around relaxation being a key component for fertility.

I get that a calm, serene environment can be perfect for conception, but the only vacation I’ll be making a baby on is the trip to my fertility clinic… and that’s hardly a vacation.

So next time you are thinking of taking a vacation to conceive your child, FUCK OFF and keep it to yourself.

Thank you. 🙂

/endrant

Baby Shower #1

This afternoon, my Splurge group hosted a small baby shower for me. My Splurge is a group of 12 women who get together once a month. I’ve been a part of my group for 7 years now.

It meant so much to me when my friend offered to host it. Her and her husband have struggled with infertility and pregnancy loss. They have chosen a child-free (yet child-full as Justine would say) life.

I normally don’t feel comfortable at large showers. I would much rather be the gift giver than the gift recipient or the party planner versus the centre of attention. But, this afternoon was nice – a perfect size with great company.

I am also very happy that many people checked out the gift registry to see what I needed. One gal bought me bath towels, face cloths and eco-friendly baby toiletries. Many people bought me clothes including size 6+ as I had asked for. I also got a KidCo Go Pod and a Baby Einstein Jumper & Activity Mat which were two of the bigger items on my list.

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The shower was a “Harvest theme”. My friends did an awesome job of decorating and laid out quite the spread to eat. Their effort really makes a gal feel loved. ❤

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36 week bumpdate

How Far Along: 36 weeks and 5 days

Meds: All taken daily – prenatal vitamin, Omega 3 + DHA, Ranitidine (2x/day), Magnesium (250mg at bedtime as per my chiro’s recommendation), Gaviscon for heartburn as required (which is OFTEN!).

Baby is the size of: a ripe papaya or a honeydew melon

Best Moments This Week:

  • Daily morning baths to loosen my hips/pelvis/back. I relax in the tub for 45 mins to an hour each morning
  • Putting the finishing touches on the nursery – just need to take some photos!
  • My Blessingway ceremony this past Sunday.

Funniest Moment this Week: When my boss video conferenced me this afternoon, but I only accepted via audio because I wasn’t wearing a bra and realized my boobs were leaking on my shirt. 😀

Total Weight Gain: a total of 16.2 lbs – +.06 from last week.

Maternity Clothes: You know it. It’s all I fit these days.

Symptoms:

  • My lower back and pelvic pain is here to stay. Yesterday I had massage, chiro and physio. I was feeling better until I sat at my desk all morning. Hopefully things can loosen up once I’m officially off work. I’m super slow moving as baby keeps dropping lower and lower. Getting out of bed or rolling over is the worst!
  • Occasional pukes are back. I’ve woken myself up 2x this past week puking in the middle of the night.
  • Tired.

Sleep: Not comfortable at all any more. Heavy belly, frequent peeing.

Food Cravings: Peaches, caramel candy apples – this one is really bizarre for me! But I discovered a local grocery store makes them and sells them for $3.99.

Anything making you queasy or sick: Middle of the night pukes, but not sure what is causing it as I have barely been eating anything for supper. I basically just have small snacks throughout the day.

Movement: He’s fairly active now. Since his last drop, I’m having a hard time finding exactly where his bum is now.

Stretch Marks: Yes, I’ve got tiger stripes.

Baby Bump: Growing and growing… You can notice the drop in the comparison photo.

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Gender: BOY

Labour Signs: Some braxton hicks, but nothing else besides baby dropping again.

Belly Button In or Out?: Innie, but not much left.

Wedding Rings on or off?: Off. I’ve given up on any sense of style/normalcy.

Happy or Moody?: Low energy can make me moody. I find my patience level is back at a zero. I struggle with needing to get out and socialize versus wanting to stay home and hibernate. I get frustrated with not being able to do as much as I want to physically when I do have energy spurts. I’m very happy that I’m almost done work and baby is almost here.

Purchases for baby:

  • No purchases this week.

Purchases for Momma: 

  • A new microSD card for my phone to store baby pics (because yes, my old one is full and I doubt I’ll have time to transfer them all before he comes… and yes you can laugh and ask WHY I don’t use a cloud solution. I don’t have the answer to that).

Miss Anything?: Sleep, energy, eating large meals, cuddling,

Looking forward to:

  • Being off work – 3.5 days left.
  • A baby shower my girlfriends are throwing for me this Sunday
  • Our local Perinatal Loss Awareness Walk on October 3rd (as long as baby stays in til then)
  • The actual arrival of our little man

Am I ready yet?

Am I ready for my baby to come? Physically, that answer is MORE THAN YES!

My symphysis pubis dysfunction (SPD) a.k.a. public pain is horrible! I’ve just come to the conclusion it’s most likely not going away until the little man is out. I am still going for massage, chiro, physio and acupuncture. Acupuncture has proven to be the most interesting/effective technique for lessening the symptoms. My acupuncturist also practices Kyoto Hand Therapy which relates each spot on your hands to a spot on your body and is perfectly safe to use during pregnancy. I’ve got certain pressure points to massage on my hands to help with the pelvic pain. And let me tell you, it’s fascinating how sore your hand can be in a spot that relates to soreness elsewhere in the body! I’ve got a massage on Monday and I’m also hoping she can loosen my inner thigh ligaments. I’ve been stretching each night, but they are still super tight. My lower back is hit and miss. Some days, it’s super sore. Other days, it’s tolerable. That YouTube video I referenced in last week’s bumpdate is helping A LOT.

I’ve also gotten a bit of the pukes back. I’ve thrown up 3-4 times this week including a horrible episode in the middle of the night last night. I woke myself up choking on puke, then coughing and slightly peeing myself. Who said pregnancy was pretty? 

Overall, I’m just sore and slow moving. I have to keep reminding myself that it will take me at least 2x as long to do anything I want to do (i.e. grocery shopping), that I will need at least 1 pee break and potentially a snack along the way.

In terms of having things ready for baby, I’m confident we have enough to get us started. The baby room is complete. We have newborn diapers and wipes, clothing, bathing products, bottles and formula samples (if we should need them). I’m caught up on laundry. Our cleaning ladies just came on Friday. Our hospital bags are almost packed. Well, baby’s bag is packed, mine is 3/4 with a list of missing items and my husband’s is about 1/4. Today, he installed the car seat in my car and the extra base in his truck. There isn’t much else to do.

Emotionally, I’m getting there. I really wish I had gone off work at 36 weeks as I do have a feeling this little guy will arrive before 40 weeks. More than anything, I’m hoping for a few days before labour begins to relax, centre and get into a mindset to prepare myself for whatever may come. I’m not sure you can ever be 100% emotionally ready, but I’m feeling much more relaxed this week than I was a few weeks ago.

Mike keeps saying he’s super excited for the baby to get here as he wants to watch the Blue Jay’s games with him… and I won’t be able to say no if the baby is requesting it. My husband can be quite the character sometimes. 🙂

Deep down, I feel like he will arrive sometime after the full moon (Sept 27), yet before the end of mercury retrograde (October 9). We will see if my intuition is right or if I’m just anxious to meet him. ❤

My birth preferences

I’m open to going with the flow of labour, but I have things I’d prefer to avoid if at all possible. I get that birth is unpredictable, but I felt that it was important to educate myself on my options ahead of time. I took some time tonight to write out my birth preferences.

I prefer the term “preferences” over “plan” as we all know you can’t plan how exactly your labour and delivery will go. For example: If my Step B test were to come back positive, I’d have to be open to IV during labour. Or if the baby was in distress, we would consent immediately to a c-section to bring him safely into this world.

Here’s what I’ve got for our write up to bring to the hospital:

Birth Preferences for Lindsey

Support people: Michael (husband), Jesska (doula)

Thank you for taking the time to read our wishes for the birth of our son. This is a very special moment for us. Our son was conceived via IVF after going through infertility and a pregnancy loss. We are very grateful that he is about to join us and can’t wait to welcome him into our world.  

My ideal birth would be one where I am cared for physically and emotionally with as little interventions as possible. We understand that birth can be unpredictable; therefore, we will be flexible in our choices.

Environment/Pain Relief/Monitoring

  • Dim lighting
  • Utilize Hypnobirthing techniques for pain management
  • No guests except required medical personnel, Michael and Jesska
  • Intermittent fetal monitoring
  • Little to no medications used

Labour

  • Freedom to move around and try multiple labour positions
  • To be consulted before the introduction of any medical procedure
  • Avoid the use of vacuum, forceps or episiotomy
  • Delayed cord clamping
  • Natural delivery of placenta. Please keep it for us as we will be encapsulating it.

Newborn Procedures

  • Delay routine procedures to facilitate bonding
  • Delay cleaning of baby to allow vernix to be absorbed
  • No ointment in baby’s eyes
  • Breastfeeding only

In the event of a Caesarean birth:

We would like immediate skin-to-skin contact. If Lindsey is unavailable, Michael can provide skin-to-skin.  Breastfeeding in recovery.

In the event the baby is sent to the NICU:

Michael will remain with the baby and do skin-to-skin if possible. Please no introduction of bottles or formulas without consulting us.

We thank you in advance for the excellent care you will give us. Your kindness and desire to make this day special for us will not go unnoticed.

With appreciation,

Lindsey & Michael

I wanted to try to keep it as concise as possible – limited to 1 page. What are your thoughts? Is there anything I’m potentially missing? I plan on reviewing it tomorrow with my doula to see what she says as well.