Today we received a package in the mail from our local health region. We are registered for a prenatal class at the end of August. They sent along the course registration form and a bunch of pregnancy-related brochures.
The course registration form asks the typical information: name, contact info, due date…
Then, it asked:
- # of children
- # of stillbirths
- # of miscarriages
Whoa. Hold on a second.
I know my pregnancy loss is a part of my medical history, but I wasn’t sure how this could relate to the prenatal class? Maybe the instructor will focus on certain topics more heavily based on the history of the class participants? I guess we will find out…
I know this question will follow me throughout life. How many times do you visit a new practitioner and they ask you about your surgical history? It’s a fairly common question. I anticipate I will also be asked about my loss when it’s finally time for our little guy to enter the world and we are admitted to labour and delivery.
You can’t get away from it.
You don’t get to let it go.
It becomes a part of you.
I didn’t expect for it to come up today, but that’s how life goes.
I’ve accepted that I will be triggered at unexpected moments, but I don’t let that scare me.
Sharing my story helps to inform.
I just wish our medical community could word it differently… My baby is more than a miscarriage.