Last night at our hypnobirthing class, another gal asked me if we want to have more than one child.
I fumbled for words and replied with, “Ummm, ughh, well… we might have to pay for another child. Yes we would love to have one, but we may have to do IVF again”.
If there’s a set of questions that has bothered me since we got pregnant, it’s that: Will you do IVF again? Do you plan on having more children?
When you face infertility, the answer is never simple.
I didn’t plan on struggling to get pregnant.
I didn’t plan on doing IVF.
I didn’t plan on losing our first baby.
We would love to have two children on earth. I’ve always pictured myself with two kids – the perfect family of four. We do have many options to make that happen. Although when you have difficulty conceiving on your own, the options become complicated, emotionally-charged and costly.
The hardest part about these questions is that I feel like it detracts from this pregnancy.
Can’t we be left alone to enjoy growing and bringing our son into the world?
Why do we need to rush life and prepare for the future?
Infertility and pregnancy loss teaches you to slow down; to cherish the small milestones. Deep down, you know that nothing is guaranteed. Life could change instantaneously and completely side-rail your plans. You take life one day at a time, one step at a time.
So, what’s our future family plan?
We aren’t thinking about it.
When the time feels right, we will entertain our options for growing our family.
Right now, we are going to cherish each and every second we have with our son and welcome him with love into this world. He’s our focus right now. We’ve worked so hard to have him.
Our family is growing by one beautiful baby boy – and for now, that’s enough for us.