Planning for pregnancy, delivery and beyond

As I am quickly approaching 12 weeks, I have the urge to sort out some pregnancy preparations.

In the past week, I’ve accomplished the following:

Registered for hypnobirthing

I’ve always wanted to take hypnobirthing as I hope to achieve a natural childbirth. I registered my husband and I for a local session running from mid-May to mid-June.

I’m also really looking forward to using this session as a chance to connect deeper with my baby and myself. I’ve been a bit “out of tune” since our loss. I’m gradually working on getting back to my regular meditation routine.

Found an amazing doula!

We met last night for tea and had lots in common – reiki, cards, birthing views, etc. I sent her an email this evening letting her know we are interested in hiring her. I hope she works out. ūüôā

She is working on her placenta encapsulation certification. I’m hoping to be one of the first ones she does this Fall.

I’m also interested in getting her for a Blessingway ceremony. I have a large group of intuitive/spiritual friends. I feel like this ceremony is much more “me” than a traditional baby shower (although I assume I will end up having both).

Started researching newborn photographers

WOW! I am seriously grateful for the friends who did our wedding photography. They were amazing and charged me way under fair market value. Ever since then, I’ve struggled with the cost of professional photography. My husband feels that the cost is worth it for capturing priceless memories of our newborn baby.

We¬†looked through a few local newborn photographers to chose the style of photography we prefer. Right now, we are leaning towards studio shots with posed newborn (as opposed to family shots or natural light photography). We’ll see if we have it in the budget to pull it off. Right now, the estimate is looking at anywhere between $600-1000 depending on which photographer we choose.¬†YIKES!¬†

I don’t think we will finalize this decision until after we have budgeted for baby necessities (crib, stroller, etc…).

Next up on my list is to look into: 

Additional child birth preparation classes. There are a few others offered in our region besides hypnobirthing. For those of you who have taken additional classes, would you recommend them? I’m so confused as to whether or not they are necessary since we are already taking hypnobirthing and will have a doula.

Setting a budget.¬†Living in Canada means I have the benefit of a year-long maternity leave. However, I do not have any employer top-up. Living off the max Employment Insurance (EI) amount will be a huge financial strain¬†for us – especially since I make more money than my husband does and we’ve spent our savings on IVF.¬†We have a savings goal we hope to obtain before baby comes, but I also need to figure out how much we will need to spend to prepare for baby.¬†I need to¬†weigh the necessities vs. the nice to haves. I pre-ordered the 2015 Baby Bargains book and hope this may help with some decisions. Thanks My Perfect Breakdown for the recommendation. ūüôā ¬†I¬†haven’t done much in terms of baby shopping. I’m really holding off on nursery planning until we have confirmation that our baby is a¬†boy.

Child care.¬†Originally, my husband and I thought we would split the leave with 6 months each. We didn’t time this pregnancy very well (which is ironic because we totally timed it!). If I were to only take 6 months, I’d return to work right at the start of farming season which would leave 2-3 months of additional required child-care while my husband is at the farm. It doesn’t make sense to do that, so I’ll most likely take the full year off. Either way, we will have to secure child-care for when I return to work in Fall 2016. Sometimes, you need to get yourself on a wait list months ahead of time.¬†I’d like to look into my options now – private daycare vs. public daycare vs. daytime nanny.

If you have any advice on any of the above mentioned items, I’d love to hear it!

11 week bumpdate

How Far Along: 11 weeks and 4 days

Meds: All taken daily ‚Äď Prenatal, Omega + DHA, Vitamin D 2000mg, Vitamin B12, Probiotic, Diclectin (4 pills daily)

NO MORE HORMONES! I finished by PIO, Prometrium and Estrace last week. It feels like I cut my pill intake in half.

Baby is the size of: a brussel sprout or a fig

Best Moment This Week:¬†Receiving our copy of You are the Mother of All Mothers with our Angel baby’s name on the tribute page ‚̧
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Total Weight Gain: +5 lbs

Maternity Clothes:¬†Today I’ve got a maxi skirt and a longer maternity tank top on. Still in between sizes.

Symptoms:¬† The sore boobs and nausea remain consistent. I have to take the full dose of Diclectin to curb the nausea and even then, I still puke. I seem to have a bit more energy during the day which I’m attributing to the lack of additional progesterone.

Sleep: Still having crazy dreams. Trying to get a nap in over lunch hour. Struggling to make it past 9pm most nights. Found having a 2 hour nap on the weekends allows me to stay up later.

Food Cravings:¬†Carbs, bread…

Anything making you queasy or sick:¬†¬†Meat – especially chicken – and vegetables. I’ve puked the past couple of times I attempted to eat chicken and veggies.

Movement: Too early.

Stretch Marks: Nothing new.

Baby Bump: Barely there but continuously getting harder. I’ve got the B bump going on (which thanks to Mr. Google I learned is an actual thing for us curvy Mommas). I typically have a double roll tummy, but the baby bloat is making it protrude much more than usual. I’m hoping as baby grows it will even out a bit. Ignore the wavy¬†hair and no make-up… it’s Monday and I work from home… ūüôā ¬†

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Gender Prediction: BOY!

Labour Signs: Too early.

Belly Button In or Out?: Innie to start!

Wedding Rings on or off?: On.

Happy or Moody?: Moody.. and occasionally HANGRY.

Purchases for baby: I ordered a¬†rainbow baby¬†maternity t-shirt and onesie. They arrived this week. I also got a very thoughtful gift from my fertility coach. She sent a yoga book for me and this super cute book for Baby – baby’s 1st official gift. ūüôā

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Miss Anything?: HOT baths, vegetables, dream-less nights, not having random hot flashes

Looking forward to: Our¬†12 week ultrasound on Thursday! I’m so pumped to see how much the gummy bear has grown.

Recognizing when fear creeps back in

My business trip went well this week. The Diclectin kicked in and I thought, “Gee, I’m really starting to feel better! I should reduce my dosage…

Well, let’s just say, I don’t recommend reducing your Diclectin dosage UNLESS you are prepared for the nausea/dry heaving/puking to return. ūüė¶

I battled through yesterday, but am happy to say I did not puke on my flight home.

I will admit that the subsiding symptoms (whether drug induced or not) were¬†bringing up my¬†fearful Momma vibes. My boobs were less sore, my nausea was gone… was my baby ok?

The return of the dreaded nausea has confirmed that everything is more than likely on track, but I’m feeling like I need a confidence boost.

My 12 week nuchal translucency ultrasound is scheduled for next Thursday, April 2nd (cue the WHOHOO!).

In the meantime, I’ve decided to register for Molly Nichol‘s upcoming FREE online workshop: How to Prepare Yourself for Pregnancy after Infertility.

During this event, Molly will explain how you can reduce the amount of fear and anxiety you experience once you become pregnant after infertility.

I may be a Courageous Momma growing her rainbow baby, but I know I don’t have all the answers. I hope to learn a thing or two from Molly’s upcoming session and tame that fear once again.

Baby’s first trip & a few other milestones

We’ve reached/are reaching a few milestones this week.

1. I’m done my PIO ass shots! I swear when you first start out this day seems like it will never come. Once you get to the end of the road, it becomes so routine that each poke barely phases you.  Either way,  I’m so grateful to be done. 

2. Baby is joining Momma on his first plane ride! I’m off to my head office for a business trip this week.  I’ve taken my Diclectin and bought a bottle of Ginger Ale.  My goal is to make it through the day (at least until 4pm), eat supper and go to bed at some obscenely early time.

3. During this trip,  I plan on telling my boss and my team about my pregnancy. I’m almost 11 weeks which may seem early to some, but I probably won’t be back in town for another month. I’d rather be honest now as we are about to embark on a major project.  I’d prefer if my boss is aware of when I’ll be available, so I can help plan my contribution upon until my leave.

That’s it for now! Wish me luck! I’m not sure how I will make it through the day without a nap. ūüôā

10 week bumpdate

How Far Along: 10 weeks and 4 days

Meds: All taken daily ‚Äď Prenatal, Omega + DHA, Vitamin D 2000mg, Vitamin B12, Probiotic, Estrace 400 mg, Prometrium 200mg, PIO 1ml,¬†Diclectin (3 pills daily)

The countdown is on: tonight is my FINAL ass shot!¬†¬†I’ll continue my Estrace and Prometrium for another 3 days .

Baby is the size of: a kumquat or a date

Best Moment This Week:¬†No more puking + first orgasm since before transfer.¬†Yes, we held out for a LONG time. I’m happy to say I had no scares following the magical moment.

Total Weight Gain:¬†Haven’t weighed myself this week.

Maternity Clothes:¬†Last week, I used my Bella Band Basic¬†with my regular jeans undone. It worked really well! Except on the 2nd day, I found the band was trying to roll up a bit. Just takes a bit of adjusting each time you stand up from sitting. Other than that, I’m still wearing regular clothes. I did purchase 2 maternity dresses for summer and a cute “Due in October” tank top.

Symptoms:¬†Same as last week: Tired, sore nipples (the boob soreness has subsided a bit), NAUSEA! Last week was by far, my worst week for nausea. After not being able to keep anything down Wed-Thursday, I caved and got a prescription for Diclectin. I’m flying out for a business trip tomorrow and I did not want to be puking the entire time I am away. Let’s just say Diclectin and I¬†are now friends. It totally eases my nausea until it’s almost time to take another pill, then I get the dry heaves again. I’ve been taking¬†1 pill in the morning, at noon and at bedtime.

Sleep:¬†I’ve been sleeping INSANE amounts! The Diclectin really turned me into a zombie the first 24 hours I was on it. I slept for over 12 hours the first¬†night and had a few naps the next day. Since then, the drowsiness is wearing off. I’ve also been having INSANE dreams. Do these continue the whole pregnancy?

Food Cravings:¬†Cherry danishes, cheese croissants… still on the carb kick.

Anything making you queasy or sick:  Brushing my teeth, chicken, smell of urine in a public bathroom

Movement: Too early.

Stretch Marks: Nothing new.

Baby Bump: Barely there but continuously getting harder.

Gender Prediction: BOY!

Labour Signs: Too early.

Belly Button In or Out?: Innie to start!

Wedding Rings on or off?: On.

Happy or Moody?: Diclectin zombie = moody

Purchases for baby: Nothing Рsurprise again!

Miss Anything?: Having energy. vegetables.

Looking forward to: Our¬†12 week ultrasound… date STILL to be determined.

Appointments, insurance and other unnecessary stress for a Friday

My OB has a new receptionist. She’s only been on the job for 2 weeks, but she’s super slow to start. I’m trying to give her a break as she’s just learning. Anyway, she didn’t book my 12 week ultrasound after my appointment last Thursday at 9 weeks.

I called Wednesday to remind her. She never called me back.

I called again this morning.

She said both ultrasound clinics have no openings until my 16 week mark, but they could put me on a wait list.

SAY WHAAATTT?

I told her that was unacceptable. My Nuchal translucency ultrasound has to be done between 11 and 13 weeks, 6 days. I suggested she get me on that wait list and then talk to the OB bout WTF¬†to do. I also suggested she go ahead and book my 20 week anatomy scan. She said she would talk about it with the OB on Monday as he’s not in the office today.

I understand she’s new, but this lady needs more confidence! It’s a well known fact that the ultrasound clinics always have extra appointment slots (or else how did I get in for IVF monitoring?). They can’t just deny someone a screening appointment – can they?

Next, I contacted my fertility clinic for a Diclectin prescription.¬†This week has been my worst so far for nausea and puking.¬†I couldn’t keep anything down yesterday. Since I’m on a business trip for 3 days next week, I need some relief or else I’m not going to make it!

When I went to get my prescription filled there was some mix up where the one Fertility clinic doctor wasn’t found in the system, so my insurance wouldn’t approve the claim. I waited for an hour, then ended up paying the full prescription amount (just under $200). The pharmacy is supposed to sort it out and call me back later.

Today has been a wack load of unnecessary stress for this prego.

I’m asking the Universe for some help to:

  • Get the ultrasound appointment booked on Monday with an¬†appointment time that fits within my schedule (as I’m¬†out of town for business¬†4 days over the next 3 weeks).
  • Have my insurance cover the cost of the meds and place the refund in my account early next week

Deep breath Lindsey. It will all work out. 

Sprouting Hope contest: Win $5000 towards IVF in Canada

I just came across a contest where you can enter to win $5000 towards IVF at any Canadian clinic of your choice.

Canadian Fertility Consulting is currently hosting a contest called Sprouting Hope.

The contest runs from March 19 to May 18th. The winner will be announced during the Canadian Infertility Awareness Week May 19- 28, 2015.

To enter: 

  1. Create a short YouTube or Vimeo video explaining what brought you to IVF. Include a brief description with your video and include the hashtag #CFCINFERTILITYAWARENESS
  2. Fill out the form on Facebook and add your video!
  3. Share with your friends and loved ones to get votes!

I know this contest may make some people feel vulnerable as you are putting yourself and your story out there on social media, but I do think it is a great way to bring awareness and put a face to IVF in Canada.

Let me know if you enter so I can watch your video and vote!

Good luck!

XO

Lindsey