Since the Barren Librarian asked for it, here’s a pic of the squinter:
Where do we stand?
No more pee sticks
I have decided no more POAS-ing. I will leave fate up to my betas from here on out.
Tomorrow, I will go for my 1st Beta at 10dp5dt. My 2nd Beta will be Monday at 13dp5dt.
Remain neutral
We are not letting ourselves get excited. I know, I know. That’s the whole torture factor of infertility. Fear overrides joy. However, my high ectopic risk puts on on edge.
My eternal optimist husband and my negative self have decided to meet halfway. Neutral territory is best right now until we know what tomorrow brings.
Remember the lessons we’ve learned
I won’t deny it. This situation is making me flash back to our last beta limbo. There are many lessons we’ve learned since then:
- Obsessing over it won’t change the outcome
- What is going to be will be
- Worrying is not worth the anxiety
- Don’t let fear overcome you. Much easier said than done.
- Recognize your support network. Don’t try to get support from those who aren’t capable of giving it.
- When times get difficult, come together, not apart. Surround yourself with love.
- Ask for help when you need it. There is no shame in admitting you need help.
- Keep yourself occupied
If you can’t tell, I’m afraid. I’m very afraid. It’s like ressurecting all of my PTSD from our last pregnancy loss. I know miracles can happen, but I’m also not willing to build myself up to come crashing down even harder.
That’s it folks. Only time will tell.
That’s not a squinter – it’s totally clear!!! So happy for you! And you’re totally right in all you say, what will be will be, sending you lots of love and positive thoughts for your betas xxx
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Thanks for the positive vibes. Xo
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I think you’re being really smart by not torturing yourself with more tests. I have so much faith that this is it for you. Let us be your cheerleaders for a few more days until you have some concrete numbers to give you that boost of confidence that you need! Pregnancy tests are evil–even when they’re positive.
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My cheering squad keeps me up. There’s no doubt about that!
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I think it’s not squintery at all!
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Guess it just seems that way when I’m still half asleep and not wearing my glasses haha
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I know how you feel. That’s how I felt with this pregnancy. I compared everything to my miscarriage. I used my miscarriage at 6w3d as a benchmark for everything. Yet, even though I passed that milestone, I couldn’t get myself to be excited. I was too guarded. So I completely understand the flashbacks you are experiencing and how your guard is up. Honestly, my guard is STILL up. So I get it. I will still pray for you and wish your little bean(s) a snuggly home and hope the anxiety and fear play nice this weekend. Congrats on being pregnant… this is the first step and definitely a step in the right direction!!!
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I have said the same thing to my husband. We won’t feel good until we pass 7 weeks 1 day and every milestone there after.
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Just know you’re not alone. My husband and I did the same EXACT thing – and we still do. And when we are all holding our bab(ies) in our arms, I know every tear, heartbreak and milestone will be worth it. Hang in there!!!
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Of that’s a + test my friend. Look forward to those good betas coming your way.
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I sure hope so!
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I’ll shake my pom-poms in super quiet whisper mode for a few days 😊 but shake them I will !!!
” ” <~~ quiet enough?!
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Waaa😭aaa it’s killing my funny
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You are too funny! 🙂
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That’s a pretty good line I think 🙂 I totally understand your caution though. Please know that I am praying for you hun! xo
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After the super prayers that helped you last night, I’ll take it!!! I have faith we will be ok.
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girl last night was CRAZY! I literally went from HORRIBLE pain to..”Let’s do some laundry and even vacuum the floors!” Like I said, crazy
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Ok. I did not have to squint to see that one. Ha! I am so glad you are getting your beta tomorrow! my fingers are crossed for 50+ !!!!!!
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Yes right now that is all we are hoping for. Above 50 would be fine with me.
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I totally see it! Congrats!!!!
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Let’s hold off on the congrats until after beta. I don’t want to get too hyped up just yet. 🙂 Thanks for reassuring me though. I am so glad to have the support.
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Stay positive and try not to over think 🙂
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Agree, not a squinter! I’m glad you’re not POASing any more, though . It’s just crazy making. Holding my breath, crossing my fingers for you.
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Don’t hold you breath! Help me breathe deeply in and out. 🙂
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Yay, lovely!!! I’m crossing my fingers for a great beta!
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Me too! Anything that doubles between tomorrow and Monday works for me.
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I’m with everyone else – don’t think it’s a squinter! That said, I think your plan is a good one and I’m happy to be in your cheering section until you’re ready to be excited!
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Thanks! It is hard to be excited knowing my high risk, but we will get there when the time is right!
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Sending you heaps of positive vibes! you just let your support network get excited for you…we are here for you every step of the way! xo
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Thank you for your continuous support! I ❤ my cheering squad!
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As a pragmatic person, I love the practicality of your approach in this post! That said, you are not facing a practical situation. We are talking about pregnancy, which us probably the most emotional thing I’ve ever experienced, so please remember to cut yourself some slack! Your plan I’d wonderful, but you may still worry and speculate more then you want to, and that’s okay. 🙂
I’m cheering for you, and clearly based on the comments everyone else us to! We are all here to support and love you!
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You know I will worry. I’m just trying not to yet. Much love to you and everyone else! Seriously, I don’t know what I’d do without you!
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Worry is what we do best! So, efforts not to are very much encouraged.
Love to you! I’m waiting on pins and needles to hear how things progress for you. I so want this one to snuggle in and be yours to bring home in about 9 months. 🙂
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not a squinter! I definitely see it!
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This was reassuring to get everyone else’s feedback. Thanks!
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I see the line clearly as well!! Try not to stress too much, though I know it’s so much easier said than done. Good luck!!!
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Totally easier said than done 😉 I’m working on it though.
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I agree that there is definitely PTSD after a pregnancy loss, and it’s something that is so hard to work through. I’m still struggling with ours. But, remember, you DID get pregnant with your ectopic- just not in the right place. So your body CAN do it. I understand the hesitation and cautious optimism, because you’re scared to be hopeful and let down. But just know that we will have hope for you, and you can join us when you feel ready. Good luck on your beta tomorrow, and on Monday!
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Thank you for the encouragement. You are right – my body did do it. I keep reminding myself that this FET cycle is so different than last. I should not be comparing anything.
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Praying for you; its going to be great : )
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I sure hope so 😉
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Totally not a squinter. 😉 I’ll keep you in my thoughts this weekend for good reassuring betas. Stay strong, hun.
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Strength is what keeps each of us going. I’ll hang onto my strength as long as I can. ❤
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Just so you know that is not at all a squinter lady! That looks like mine did at 11/12dpo. Not a squinter at all. I think your going to be pleasantly surprised, but i try not to give you too much false hope. Seeing that actually made me feel even better about your positive from yesterday. Xo
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I went back and looked at yours. Yes, I’d agree it looks close to your 11dpo. I’m 13dpo today so not far behind. Plus, this was first AM pee. Could have been darker with 2nd.
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I said not to pee first thing lol. I bet the next one would have been darker.
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I had to go to work! Lesson learned 😉
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Oh no.
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Big hugs sweetie! I’m so excited!
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no squinting required! 🙂
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Fingers crossed for you and continuing to send u positive vibes. Keep us posted. Try to get some rest
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That is a definite line! No squinting here!! So excited and hopeful for you.
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Wait, what?!????! I’ve been really bad at following my blogger friends lately since I’ve stopped blogging, and last I heard this cycle was a bust. This is INCREDIBLE….that’s more than a squinter honey. YOU GOT THIS!!!!!! HANG ON BABY(IES)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I’m scared. I think you understand that one. So many hurdles to cross still. Need a strong and appropriately rising beta. Thanks for your endless support. 🙂 xo
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I totally get it….and understand it! You’re SO WELCOME!!!! Here for you if you ever need to talk! XOXO
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