I’m asking for prayers, love and light to be sent to a dear fertility friend of mine.
After enduring over 5 years of trying to conceive, 1 fresh IVF cycle that resulted in OHSS, extensive fertility testing including the scratch to determine the receptivity of her uterine lining (which came back positive), she just found out that her 4th FET was not successful.
She has never had a BFP.
Life is horribly unfair.
This is why I feel like anyone facing infertility should never have to defend their feelings. We endure so much to achieve our desire to have children.
We undergo poking, prodding, testing, and surgeries that leave us physically vulnerable and emotionally bruised.
We face our fears and overcome them – only to find new ones hiding on the other side.
We learn who are true friends and family are. We leave behind those whose own journeys prevent them from being a part of ours.
We hope.
We fail.
We grieve.
Yet, we continue on.
We define what we are willing to do to reach motherhood – IUI, IVF, donors, surrogacy, or adoption. We may even find peace with a child-free life.
Does this mean we are unlucky?
No, it means we are strong.
We endure.
We come out on the other side having a completely different perspective on life.
We have suffered, yet we are grateful for learning the things we have, for facing so many life lessons, for becoming a better version of ourselves.
Laurie – I admire your strength and determination. Thank you for letting me be a part of your journey. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
Awaiting Autumn 
“We hope, we fail, we grieve, yet we continue on”. So well said. Love to your friend, and to all those going through this struggle.
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I thought of you today when I wrote adoption. I also suggested my friend check out your blog as they are looking at all options now.
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If you friend ever has any questions she is welcome to email me – starting to look into alternative family options (surrogacy, childless, adoption, etc.) is pretty overwhelming.
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Love to your friend. That is heartbreaking. I agree with everything you say here. I believe it’s true on a deeper level. But right now I feel anything but strong, and it feels like the storm is never going to end. Blah.
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Trust me! I have those days, weeks and months too!
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Prayers for your friend. I have also have a friend who is going through something similar (and just as disappointing).
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Its just so hard. 😦
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Oh Lindsey it’s a good thing I didn’t read this before our lunch I would have been a mess! Thank you for your kind words and support and thank you everyone else for your kind words. I don’t know how’d I’d get through this journey without the support of my fertility sisters!
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Love you! Hang in there sister!
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So sorry to hear about so much disappointment! Infertility is so unfair and draining, it’s maddening that women have to go through it. I wish your friend much love and luck with whatever road they choose going forward.
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I feel for your friend. We just had our 5th IVF cycle failure (3rd fresh) and nothing, again. It is so so hard to find the strength to continue and grieve for each embryo you become attached to after transfer. It’s an awful process that will (hopefully) pay off for all of us.
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Lots of love to her. I can’t even imagine going through so much and never having a BFP.
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Same. Not even seeing one stirs up a whole other set of emotions and fears.
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Sending thoughts & prayers to your friend. This posted resonated with me so much. Although I have come out the other side of infertility, I still find myself realizing how much I have grown and how many people have left my life because they weren’t knowledgeable nor sensitive to infertility and my needs during my journey. Bravo on a great post! And stay strong warrior!
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Same to you warrior Momma!! 🙂
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Stay strong warriors!
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So kind of you to do this.
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