IVF is a foreign concept to you, but it’s reality for us.
For the next two months, my focus is on maintaining my energy, my positivity and my health to increase the success of our IVF cycle. I hope you can respect that.
In the meantime, here’s some facts and expectations as we begin our journey to IVF.
Timing is beyond our control
No, I don’t know WHEN we are going for our IVF. I have an guesstimate, but that is the best we will get.
Timing is all based on my body and unfortunately, I can’t control it or else we definitely would have conceived by now.
NO you won’t “get” what we are going through
IVF demands a lot of a couple – physically, emotionally and spiritually.I may get bruises all over my tummy from shooting myself up 2x a day. My belly might look pregnant when it’s just my body reacting to the drugs. Pills, injections, internal ultrasounds, catheters squeezed through your cervix, giant needles inserted through your vagina and into your ovaries (Do you like the picture I’m painting?)… what I endure physically compares to a science experiment. When I’m on fertility drugs, I endure an emotional roller coaster that is beyond my control. (Are you catching onto a pattern here? Most of the process is beyond our control). I am short-tempered, cry over anything and often just want to be alone.
Many times over the past year (especially during my time alone), I have questioned my spirituality. My faith has dwindled as I wonder “why us?” In the end, all I can do is trust. No matter what I have to endure, I know that it will be worth it to have our beautiful baby in our arms at the end of this journey.
S-U-P-P-O-R-T, find out what it means to me
Please, please don’t share your opinion of fertility treatments with me! I pay very nice and well educated doctors thousands of dollars to provide me their professional opinions – and those opinions are the only ones I will listen to.
You can ask how I am doing, but don’t ask 101 questions about IVF. I actually prefer if you don’t try to understand the process. It’s easier on the both of us.
If you want to support me:
- Call me to talk about anything BUT infertility
- Offer to help with things we won’t be able to do when we are at the clinic – water my flowers, walk my dogs, clean my house (yes I mean that)
- Send me a gift pack for when I’m laid up after my egg retrieval and transfer
- Pray for us. Send love and light and best wishes
Remember that my husband is also going through this. Don’t forget about him. He can use your kind words of encouragement just as much as I can.
We will tell you the outcome when we are ready
When going through any fertility treatment, you are hopped up on hormones and waiting in anticipation for the verdict: Pregnant or Not Pregnant.
The last thing I need is phone calls or text messages asking us for the outcome.
We will share our news with you, whether it’s good or bad, when we are ready.
It’s our story to tell. Please respect our privacy.
I have always been vocal about our (in)fertility, but going into our IVF cycle, I feel the need to be more private.
If you catch me in a vulnerable moment and I share more than I had anticipated, please don’t call up your bestie, neighbour, long-lost cousin or any random stranger to inform them of our situation.
We will share our story with others – there’s no doubt about that, but it’s our story to tell.
If you come across another couple who is struggling like we are, feel free to send them our way. I am more than willing to help those who are facing a fertility journey like ours.
With love, ❤