There has been an ABUNDANCE of BFPs on the fertility blogs this month. I am so happy for each couple who has moved forward on their journey, but I’m feeling left behind. I’m trying hard to focus on the HOPE that comes from each one of your stories.
Lindsey – It happened to them. It can happen to you. It will happen to you. It’s just a matter of when.
During this time off from fertility treatments, my goal has been to disconnect from the concept of time.
Accept the fact that we will have children one day, but also, accept that we can’t choose when.
It doesn’t matter what route you are taking – natural, IUI, IVF, or adoption – you don’t get to choose when it will all work out. But wouldn’t it be nice if we could?
I believe a form of destiny comparable to a set of lessons we are meant to learn or experiences we must go through to grow stronger. When I reflect on our fertility journey, it’s taught me the following:
- Patience – You can’t always have what you want when you want it
- Gratitude – Be thankful for what you do have right now
- Mindfulness – How to be more aware of my body, mind, and spirit.
- Empathy – You are never alone. There is always someone else who understands what you are going through – on many levels greater than just (in)fertility.
I always say I wouldn’t trade this journey for anything. The heartache sucks, but the lessons learned are well worth the wait… and hopefully, I’m not waiting too much longer.
What lessons has your fertility journey taught you?