How do you stay positive while trying to conceive?

CD5. Clomid Day 1. Pending IUI #2.

Let’s get this cycle started!

It’s every (in)fertile’s favourite time again: CLOMID CRAZY TIME!

I popped that little magical pill again this morning. So far, so good. I feel my ovaries slightly but it’s hardly as noticeable as it has been before.

This is my 3rd cycle on Clomid.

When I spoke to the nurse from my clinic earlier this week, she said we should meet with the RE to discuss potentially switching to something other than Clomid next month. …if there is a next month.

My mom and my best friends keep encouraging me to use positive words, to keep replaying those positive visualizations over and over again in my head.

On the fertility forums, I read posts that say, “you are pregnant until the beta says you aren’t!” Really? But if I’m not, I’m NOT!

Doesn’t incessant positiveness drive a person mad if the outcome is always the opposite of what’s desired? Where’s the happy medium? And how do I get there?

I mentioned previously that I believe in divine timing, but it’s hard when the drugs and appointments force you to stay focused. You put in so much effort, never knowing what the outcome will be.

That’s the one thing I’m struggling with right now: how do you stay positive?

15 thoughts on “How do you stay positive while trying to conceive?

  1. I stay positive by only thinking and speaking whatever God would think or speak. He created the entire universe by His words. Not to mention Jesus always said, “SAY to this mountain move from here to there…” He didn’t say “think”…but speak. So i always SPEAK out loud positive things whenever doubt creeps in. Genesis says that God made us in His image, therefore, I believe our words have power. We can create the life we want.

    The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21

    I hope that helps you stay positive this cycle! I’m praying there won’t be a “next month” with the RE 🙂


  2. That’s a good question. Let me know when you figure that one out! I think for the most part it just has to be a conscious decision to be positive. So much easier said than done. I switched to Letrozole after Clomid. I feel like I had fewer side effects. Not as crazy, fewer hot flashes!


  3. You sound so much like me! I had the worst time staying positive during treatment cycles. I tried to just be neutral, to do what the RE told me to do and not think too much about it. That helped somewhat. It stopped me from googling the heck out of everything!


  4. I actually think I’ve been the most positive this cycle. I believe the more invested you make yourself the easier it is to become positive. If you emotionally switch off to save you own feelings there’s not much left but negatively. So as much as being positive can hurt if things don’t work out, at least you gave yourself a break.


  5. I have no good advice on this as I am an admitted negative nancy. I pretty much already think this IUI won’t work and I haven’t even done it yet! I know being positive is important, but I am really sucking at it these days. I am CD 7, so we will be almost IUI twins again this month i think. I am slated for February 5. Good luck to you!


  6. I dont force myself to feel positive, I allow myself to be sad, or real, or whatever it is, because sometimes IT JUST SUCKS! I find that if I just let myself acknowledge that pain, then I dont dwell on it too long and I can move on. If I fight the hurt to long, then I find that Im not truly being positive anyways, and I just end up worse in the long run. But just keeping everything in perspective is the greatest piece of advice I could say.


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