A lesson learned: (in)fertility makes me stronger than you think

I have been contemplating whether or not to write this post. But I’ve decided fuck it – it’s my truth!

Someone very close to us made a rude, disrespectful, hurtful comment about my husband and I.

This person is my father-in-law.

And his comment was, “At least I know one of my sons can figure out how to get it right and have children when he wants to”.

Shocking? To most other people – yes. To me – hell no.

I’ve witnessed countless times and times again where my father-in-law has placed his youngest son on a pedestal above his oldest son – my husband.

It hurts to know that my father-in-law will never be there to support us. But, it hurts even more for me to hear that my husband’s father thinks that way about him.


There’s no other word to describe it.

So, I did what any other (in)sane (in)fertile would. I drove over to his house and spoke my truth.

I told him what I had heard.

The only response he had was, “Who said it? Who told you?” Sorry father-in-law, but the bearer of your secrets has more respect for my husband and I than you ever will.

He got aggressive.

I looked him in the eyes and said, “If you ever speak even one more word about our ability to have children, I will RIP YOUR FUCKING BALLS OFF!” He wants to emasculate my husband. I’ll emasculate him.

I turned to leave and thanked him for proving to me that he is nothing more than the drunk asshole that everyone else says he is.

This Momma bear protects her family. Be prepared for when my cubs arrive, because I will protect them even more than I protect my husband now.

My husband is kind and caring. I am so grateful that he does not take after his father.

As for my father-in-law – all that I can hope for this man is that one day he wakes up from his life of self-hatred and misery; and turns towards happiness and love.

4 thoughts on “A lesson learned: (in)fertility makes me stronger than you think

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