Day 11 of the Bloggers Fertility Conference

This is the last week of Miss Conception Coach’s Fertility Conference. I hope you’ve been enjoying the posts so far.

Today’s post is by Lindsey from Energizer 25.

When going through fertility treatments, everything – the tests, the drugs, the procedures, the failed cycles – can seem like too much to handle. Sometimes you want to throw that towel in and get back to your life before you started trying to conceive. But, deep down, you know that you can’t stop until you reach your goal. Lindsey discusses something that has gone through every (in)fertile woman’s mind: to keep going or to give up?

Check out Lindsey’s post and don’t forget to subscribe to her blog!

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28 week bumpdate

How Far Along: 28 weeks and 5 days

Meds: All taken daily – prenatal vitamin, Omega 3 + DHA, Ranitidine (2x/day), Magnesium (250g at bedtime as per my chiro’s recommendation), Gaviscon for heartburn as required (which is OFTEN!).

Baby is the size of: a coconut or a papaya

Best Moments This Week:

  • Reaching the 3rd trimester
  • Celebrating my 30th birthing with a backyard BBQ

Total Weight Gain: Didn’t weigh myself this week. Last week was up 1.2lbs for a total of 10.2 lbs. With my birthday, I expect I may be up again. MMMM birthday cake!

Maternity Clothes: Still a mix of tops but definitely all maternity bottoms. I’m trying really hard to live with what I’ve bought so far. I would love a few more options, but I keep telling myself it’s not worth it when I work from home.

Symptoms:

  • Definitely went through another growth spurt. I recognize the pattern now. I am so hungry during the day and baby doesn’t move as often as he usually does. At night, my tummy feels extra bloated and sore. At the peak/end of the spurt, I’m exhausted.
  • Minor heartburn and acid reflux – one of my best week’s yet!
  • Sore hips/tummy
  • Started to notice slight watery discharge from my nipples on certain days

Sleep: Haven’t been sleeping great this week. Lots of tossing and turning. One hour naps on my really tired days make a huge difference!

Food Cravings: Black cherry ice cream, plain ruffled potato chips, cucumbers, red grapes,

Anything making you queasy or sick: Smell of pulled pork cooking which we made for our BBQ. I had to stay out of the kitchen for a few hours until my stomach settled.

Movement: Not as much the past few days due to the growth spurt. I kept telling my husband I wanted reassurance from the baby. Two nights ago, I went to bed later than expected, but of course, that’s when the little man decided to dance up a storm. I stayed awake enjoying the fact that he was moving again.

Stretch Marks: Yes, on my lower tummy.

Baby Bump: Growing and growing…

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This shirt has a story behind it. I bought it the month of our 2nd IUI because I thought for sure it would work (we were all naive in the beginning...). I tucked it away in the closet and didn’t get a chance to wear it for over a year and a half. It’s finally starting to fit me properly. My husband’s fav Canadian Football League (CFL) team is obviously the Saskatchewan Roughriders. It’s one of their maternity shirts that says ”Baby Rider Fan”.

Gender: BOY

Labour Signs: Too early.

Belly Button In or Out?: Innie but still lots of stretching and pulling around my belly button.

Wedding Rings on or off?: Off due to the heat.

Happy or Moody?: This week had been a good one. I enjoyed my birthday and felt relaxed overall.

Purchases for baby: A few onesies and a blanket from Carter’s. Toys from a garage sale – they were an amazing deal! A print from Chapters to hang in the baby room.

Purchases for Momma: A light housecoat to wear post-delivery at the hospital

Miss Anything?: Being able to sleep fully reclined.

Looking forward to: Our next OB appointment on August 4. I must have past my initial glucose screening test because I haven’t heard from him.

You don’t get to let it go

Today we received a package in the mail from our local health region. We are registered for a prenatal class at the end of August. They sent along the course registration form and a bunch of pregnancy-related brochures.

The course registration form asks the typical information: name, contact info, due date…

Then, it asked:

  • # of children
  • # of stillbirths
  • # of miscarriages

Whoa. Hold on a second. 

I know my pregnancy loss is a part of my medical history, but I wasn’t sure how this could relate to the prenatal class? Maybe the instructor will focus on certain topics more heavily based on the history of the class participants? I guess we will find out…

I know this question will follow me throughout life.  How many times do you visit a new practitioner and they ask you about your surgical history? It’s a fairly common question. I anticipate I will also be asked about my loss when it’s finally time for our little guy to enter the world and we are admitted to labour and delivery.

You can’t get away from it.

You don’t get to let it go.

It becomes a part of you.

I didn’t expect for it to come up today, but that’s how life goes.

I’ve accepted that I will be triggered at unexpected moments, but I don’t let that scare me.

Sharing my story helps to inform.

I just wish our medical community could word it differently… My baby is more than a miscarriage.

Day 10 of the Bloggers Fertility Conference

Today’s post is by yours truly!

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When Chiemi asked me to submit a few pieces for the conference, I chose the ones I thought would help people the most – you know more of the “how to” style. I also submitted this one entitled, “Who Are You?” It originally appeared on my blog on January 5th, 2015. That’s right when we started our FET cycle.

Often throughout the hustle and bustle of life, we forget to pause and take a second to remember who we are. That’s what this post is about. Enjoy! <3

Who are you?

Yes – YOU!

I know you have been feeling…

lost

afraid

alone

labelled

as

infertile.

You are so much more than a diagnosis.

Infertility affects you. Don’t let it define you.

You are a brave soul who puts her dreams at the forefront of her life.

You are a wife, lover, daughter, mother, sister, friend.

You are an athlete, painter, writer, singer, expert knitter or whatever other activity lights your fire.

When you aren’t sure you can go on…

Take a moment. Sit in the sun.

Think of YOUR happy place from before

the testing

the timed intercourse

the treatments

the drugs.

Wrap your arms around your body and give yourself a hug.

You are strong. You are brave.

This journey tests your limits, but also helps you get to know yourself better.

You may change. You may not recognize yourself at times.

If that happens, take a deep breath.

Ok, take 3 deep breaths.

Breathe in, breathe out.

When infertility feels like it’s running your life, take a step out of the dark.

Regroup.

Change your focus.

Go to a movie.

Take the dogs for a run.

Cuddle under the stars.

Bake chocolate chip cookies.

Forget the chaos of wanting to control something beyond your control.

Do whatever makes you happy.

Smile.

Let your light shine.

Remind yourself who you are:

A beautiful soul who is worthy of love, joy and happiness.

Don’t life’s struggles steal that from you.

Stand on your own two feet and move forward

with courage, confidence, and even a lil’ swagger.

You are YOU. The only you.

That’s all that matters.

There’s one more week of the conference left. Follow it on the Miss Conception Blog.

Day 9 of the Bloggers Fertility Conference

Today’s post is by Logan from With Great Expectation.

Finding the silver lining in our struggles can give us strength and perseverance. When Logan was first diagnosed with PCOS, she didn’t think she would find any good in it. Now, Logan shares 5 Reasons I am Thankful for PCOS.

Check out Logan’s post and don’t forget to subscribe to her blog!

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Psssttt… if you haven’t caught on, I’m featured tomorrow! Stay tuned! 

Two big milestones in one day

Today, I’ve officially reached the 3rd trimester AND it’s my 30th birthday.

I laid in bed this morning contemplating where I thought my life would be at 30. It didn’t seem odd to be pregnant, but if you had asked me years ago, I would have assumed we would be pregnant with Baby #2. The funny thing is that this is true. Baby #1 just took longer than expected and didn’t get to come home with us.

The past few weeks have been a period of reflection. At the beginning of 2015, I set a goal for peace. I’ve recently realized that any time I don’t feel peaceful, I need to turn to acceptance and gratitude.

For example: Some days, the aches, pains and nasty pregnancy symptoms start to add up and can turn your mood fowl. Instead of dwelling on the “why me’s”, I turn my focus to gratitude. I am so grateful to be pregnant. Each side effect or symptom is proof that my body is working hard to provide nourishment and a safe home for my baby.

Sometimes it’s easier to let our chaotic minds take over, rather than recognizing the advantages to our situation. It’s all a matter of perspective. And that slight change in perspective can ease many worries and anxieties; and bring you peace.

Reaching the 3rd trimester definitely seems surreal. I wasn’t sure how I would feel today, but I am happy to have (potentially) 12 weeks left to prepare for my little boy. I’m looking forward to becoming a mother. I can’t wait to see my husband hold our son for the first time. I’m actually interested in experiencing labour (says the crazy woman- ha!) and all of our baby’s “first time” experiences as well.

I’m not upset about turning 30. I’m actually kinda happy to leave my 20’s behind. They were a period of many challenges, but each experience turned me into the person I am today – a strong 30-year old woman. I have a loving husband, a beautiful home, and a successful career. I am a mother to two children and my fur-babies. I can honestly say that I love myself much more now than I did when I was 20. I am confident in who I am. I’m proud of how far I’ve come and exactly where I am today.

I’m ready to enter my 30’s and hope that they bring many, many blessings. <3

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^ Since I can’t have the wine today, would you be willing to do that part for me? :P

Day 8 of the Bloggers Fertility Conference

Today’s post is Caroline from In Due Time.

Blogging isn’t always easy to do. You put your heart and soul into words and post them for others to read which can leave you open to criticism and judgement. The struggle of infertility is one that comes with lots of pain – something that not everyone can handle. Caroline shares her thoughts on being vulnerable and why sharing her story is worth it.

Check out Caroline’s post and don’t forget to subscribe to her blog!

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